Shailaza's Blog

Tag: singlehood

  • The Myth of Romantic Love

    The Myth of Romantic Love

    People often ask me why have I not married even after a decade of my husband’s passing. I tell them that I value my freedom more than anything else in the world. However, that is just the partial truth.

    The truth is that today romantic relationships have become a pain. If you are some one who is relatively self reliant, there is no reason why you should waste your time in getting into a relationship. Not only boys but the girls have also become equally demanding. Abuse is rampant on both ends. They don’t want partners, they want robots who will comply to their every demand and do as they are told. Each one wants a partner who can be switched off and on at will. We have stopped considering the other person as a human being. We only are bothered about ourselves.

    One of my best friends is in a relationship and it saddens me to see how both of them keep fighting all the time. Both of them keep blaming each other and find reasons to fight. No one is ready to give in. No one is ready to keep quiet. When I visited them, all I wanted to do was to get away from all the fight and negativity. Their expectations are so high that perhaps God alone can only fulfil them.

    Fortunate are those who can find a romantic partner who can live peacefully with them. However, there are not very many examples of harmonious relationships in today’s times.

    Why should I then in such a scenario even think about getting into any kind of relationship? Why should I then think of risking my sanity for a momentary emotion? Don’t you think I am better off dreaming of someone nice rather than get someone nasty and make my life miserable all over again?

    What do you think?

  • The Truth of Living Alone

    The Truth of Living Alone

    Here is an ode to love and marriage! As I look at people in the world today, I am glad to say that I am happily single! So, I wrote a poem to gloat over my freedom and wonder why people like to fall in life oops love!

    There are times I feel alone,

    Wishing that I had some one of my own.

    I hug myself and watch other people from my window,

    To see how togetherness binds,

    Instead of romantic stories, my observations have gathered some interesting finds.

    Every evening, a live-in couple has to fight,

    To decide who is always wrong and who is always right.

    Their sweet nothings lasted as long as their struggle to stay together,

    When everyone agreed, their faces changed like the weather.

    Scowls and grimances replaced the smiles and laughter,

    Now fights and disagreements make up their happily ever after.

    Another window shows a man washing utensils while his wife shouts at the top of her voice,

    The neighbours have gotten used to the ruckus and the endless noise.

    No matter what the man does, the woman always complains,

    She shouts at him for every thing, even the untimely rains.

    I see a woman with a sad face looking out of the window,

    Perhaps she is searching for the lost romance and love’s glow.

    Her face is lined with care and she keeps turning around to look at the clock,

    She has to be at the door at 6 pm before her husband can knock.

    She pours him his first drink and knows that he will slap her as soon as he gets high,

    She waits for the inevitable as she gazes at the night sky.

    Then there is a man next door, who doesn’t know what to do,

    Because his new wife filed a dowry case against him after saying I love you!

    I look at the faces of men and women who dreamt of being together for ever and aye,

    All the vibrancy, hope and laughter gone; their faces have a ghostly grimness today.

    I wonder if people who wrote these romance novels were single or embittered married men and women,

    Who kept their unrealized fantasies alive by writing them with a pen.

    Or perhaps they were looking for revenge and wanted every one to believe in happily ever after,

    So that they could enjoy the plight of these hopelessly trapped couples and their unhappy lives could be filled with devilish laughter.

    I am happy I did not fall into this romantic trap that has been elaborately laid out for all.

    Now I know why no one rises in love; poor unsuspecting fools always fall!