The school education Doesn’t┬а teach you about┬а your mental health, Physical excercise, English, Math and History All is taught. But no one delves into the mystery That is you! What you think, what you feel. Nothing is explored or revealed.
In a school, You are not an individual unique, Making you part of the millions is what they seek. No one tells you where your calling lies, You try to gather the grades But your heart cries Then based on those grades Which reveal nothing about the personality inside, They categorise you and decide Who you are and what you can do. But no one asks you. They put you into preset categories A very round peg into a very square hole They don’t care what your heart says They don’t bother about your soul. What is the point of an education That converts humans into cattle or herd? Or classifies someone as geeky or nerd? When will we have places that celebrate the uniqueness of humans? And let them flower and grow the way they are meant to be? Why do we still have the ‘one size fits all’ for everyone who is born on this planet Earth? If thats the case, then set up factories for babies, Why bother giving birth? – Shailaza Singh
If the theory of reincarnation is true, Then we must have lived and died a million times, Me and you. Yet we don’t remember dying or what it feels like to die Have you ever wondered why? Each night when we drift into a blissful sleep, We forget ourselves and find a rest deep. That’s why we love this part of the day, When we can forget our pains and sorrows And simply vanish or drift away Death is akin a blissful long rest, Where nothing matters anymore. You forget everything, when you walk out of the door. But when we are born the memory of that bliss is taken away We forget what going home is like. Because despite all the trials and troubles, The fear of the unknown forces us to stay. No one wants to die Because they are made to fear death more than life, It helps them to stay here and face the struggle and strife Just imagine if people really remembered the nothingness and the bliss They would all be lining up for the final kiss. –Shailaza Singh
They worked for years And one fine day they were told to leave All their dreams came crashing down It was hard for them to believe The company they had given their life and blood all these years Made them face their worst fears Just because the guys at the top couldn’t take the cut And to face their employees they didnt have the guts Today those employees stand at crossroads of a new era Where their education and experience will become their guide They are just waiting for the turning of the tide They will create a new workplace For all those who have lost their jobs in the same way Perhaps its a beginning of a new era where India will become the new power Where innovation , hardwork will make enterprise flower. Now it will be us who will create opportunities We will stay at home, We won’t be the ones wandering to new lands, This time the power will be in our hands And the world will flock to our door And we will not have brain drain anymore. -Shailaza Singh
‘I’ is a festering wound, Open yet covered lightly The moment someone touches the ‘I’ Or even looks at it The pain arises ever so slightly The being writhes in pain For the ‘i’ knows no compassion or mercy but only losses and gains Those who are wounded with the ‘I’ Have only one aim That the other’s ‘I’ shouls hurt just the same. An ‘I’ for an ‘I’ is what the world is after. The ‘I’ looks for its new prey amidst the revelry and laughter. The ‘I’ wants reverence, relevence and fame No wonder on all those secret donations we still have those names The ‘I’ loves pains and fights Planning and plotting it stays up all nightsтАж If the ‘I’ infects the others , it becomes a ‘we’ Then it avenges its hurtsтАжthrough wars and famine and all that it can be. The ‘I’ tries to trick death by leaving its name even after its passing away. The ‘I’ wants the world to remember it everyday How do I heal the ‘I’ in me? When ‘I’ is the only thing I can see? Or may be I see ‘me’ in everything, everywhereтАж May be I can heal ‘I’ with a heartfelt gratitude and prayer.. -Shailaza Singh
Is this why Gods came down to Earth, To incarnate in a physical plane? A planet where you can touch the energy And feel the joy, ecstacy and pain? Is this why people mourn for dear ones Despite knowing the immortality of the soul? Because the physical expression of love makes you feel alive and whole? When we someone passes away, we don’t lament their passing But we cry for the loss of expressions in the physical plane. We lament not hearing the person respond When we call out his name. We cry for we will not be able to touch them anymore. We are sad because we will never see them walk out of that door. Yet we know, the person is not gone, his essence is still there. That is why we keep communicating throughout our lives through thoughts and prayers. And the person too communicates through these channels, thoughts and dreams Our loved ones never leave us Even though it may seem. Ye we must let go, so that they can be with us and yet fulfill their new role Love is what binds us, a force greater than time…love is the goal Look beyond the physical form, everything is alive From form to formless that is what our aim is Whether it is about our loved ones or about the power supreme And one day we evolve enough to realize Not all that we see is the┬а truth… The unseen world rules all that is seen. ┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а -Shailaza Singh
He doesn’t say anything yet he knows. He watches, he sometimes warns. Of the dangers, of the problems, of the thorns. But his signals and signs like him are like a silent alarm, He tells your heart of the pending storm in an unnatural calm He asks your intuition to walk with him Every day he tells you to savour the present, to each day open his gift, For though he walks in his own speed Yet his judgements are swift. He asks you to treasure the pleasures that are sent your way He asks you to not put off anything till tomorrow Just do what you can todayтАж He tells you to live and love everyday. He is time, the omnipresent God above Gods He has a magical balm that heals wounds, heartbreaks and sorrows and┬а he cuts the ego with a powerful sword He comes quickly when it is time to go, How time flies, we will never know. So be with him, for those who savour his present, Spend time with your loved ones, For when the time comes, you will never know where they went. Have no regrets about the bygones or the past, For this present will also not last. And live a life in all its splendour and glory So make your choice, be with time and write your own storyтАж ┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а┬а -Shailaza Singh
We are multi dimensional beings, you and I. Our souls inhabit this body, Just like the clothes our body wears, We discard those clothes when they become old or get a tear.
We are multi dimensional beings, We travel across time and space, We have are missions to fulfill and lessons to learn We are blessed with power and grace.
We are multi dimensional beings, With each birth we evolve and grow, Which chapter will the life book open at? We will never know..
We are multi dimensional beings With each birth, we grow a little in our power, Just like a bud, each time we blossom into a more magnificent flower.
We are multi dimensional beings, The expressions of a powerful universal magic Where everything is about lessons There is nothing bad or tragic
We are multi dimensional beings Don’t be fooled by our skins dark or light, We are the sunrays that power up the moon at night.
We are multi dimemsional beings We are here to experience the theatre of the earth We all have our roles to play, We gracefully exit, shed our costumes and hug the actors back stage We move on to our next assignment, our next phase
We are multi dimensional beings, We forget our true nature So that we can remember again in this divine play. That we are all here to play a role, None of us is here to stay. -Shailaza Singh
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Can we really be happy by forgetting about our own selves to care for our loved ones? Are martyrs┬а of life really happy? #lovepeople #Dontfollowanyone #discoveryourowncalling #loveyouzindagi #livelifetothefullest #hindipoetry #acceptyourself #trusttheuniverse #beyourself #loveyourselfalways #believeinyourself #loveothersasyouloveyourself #lovehumanity
Smell the flowers.. Instead of counting the hours… Go and watch the sky change hues.. For a while…just be you….
You were not meant to spend your life, Struck by celebrities, stars and their deceptive power. Disconnect a bit sometime, Go, watch the skies and smell the flowers.
Most people would like to find their love online these days. They love the sense of adventure, thrill that comes with it. There are millions of options available no doubt. However, the net also has an abundance of scammers who are just waiting to ensnare those besotted with love!
One goes, others come- Bus, Train and Chats!
Sunita, 39 was quite upset. Her online friend had not been talking to her for an entire week now. They had been friends for over two months. He did not answer her calls and just sent a cryptic message saying, тАШwill talk laterтАЩ. One day, her friend Mansi came to meet her. тАШWhy are you so upset?тАЩ she asked. Sunita told her the issue. Mansi nonchalantly said, тАШhe must have found someone more loaded. After all, its an investment of time!тАЩ
Sunita revealed that her online friend had asked her for her photographs which she refused to give. Since then, he had become distant and kept saying that she did not trust him enough. Mansi nodded, тАШyes, he wanted to have a little bit of тАШfunтАЩ. When he could not get it from you, he decided to try his luck elsewhere. Remember, in real life or net, when one goes, other comes whether bus or train or even a chat friend.тАЩ
Options Galore
Dr. Anamika Papriwal, a psychologist says, тАШWhen one goes on apps like Tinder or TrulyMadly or Aisle, they are given an impression that there are plenty of options to choose from. It is like being in the biggest supermarket of the world where you have millions of options to choose from. So, you will always keep wondering if there is anything better than the one you currently have or if you donтАЩt get the desired features from that product, you will have no qualms about leaving it and trying for the next best option. As a result, the relationships online are hardly long lasting unless you disconnect from the app once you have found the person you were looking for.тАЩ
Need based transactions
When Arunima 41, decided to come to India for two months, she knew she would be lonely without her husband and daughter. She comes here regularly to take care of her business and stays for months at a time. She says, тАШEvery time I come here, I start scoring for people who are looking for a casual, no strings attached fling. After all, why should boys have all the fun? I have a family back home and I am not looking for any kind of melodrama or complications or monetary problems. There are many who are looking for the same thing and we get together. Once the two months are over, we bid adieu and promise to never be in touch again. So far this arrangement has worked for me quite well.тАЩ
Kaveri Banerjee a psychologist based in Delhi says, тАШOnline relationships are nothing but simple transactions that are a matter of convenience for most people. They are mostly need based and not based on emotions or long term. When the need is met, the people go their own separate ways.тАЩ
Agrees Govind, 35, тАШI am a single guy who is not looking for long term. When I meet a girl online, I want to meet her immediately so that I can evaluate if we are a good fit. If she delays the meeting or does not want to meet before knowing me and chatting with me, I tell her that I donтАЩt have either the time or the patience for such conversations.тАЩ
Honey! I want your money
Vihaan was 50-year-old widower, settled in Chandigarh. His sons and daughters were married and were living in different parts of the country and the world. Vihaan stayed alone in his house with his servants. One of his friends advised him to logon to Tinder, an app for single men and women. Vihaan liked the idea because he could look at prospective matches from the comfort of his house. He chanced upon Aparna, a single mother working in a not-for-profit organization (NGO). She was a 45-year-old divorcee who had a college going son. They instantly hit off and Aparna even introduced Vihaan to her son Nikhil.
They talked for long hours on end on audio and video calls and Aparna told him how she had single-handedly raised Nikhil after her husband walked away with another woman. Vihaan felt he had met a kindred soul in Aparna. He talked to his friends and they advised him to go and meet his dream girl. Aparna readily agreed to the idea. Vihaan had booked his tickets for the following week. Before the day he was to travel to meet her, Vihaan got a call from Aparna at about 1 a.m. She told him that Nikhil had met with a serious accident and was in the ICU. He had lost a lot of blood and the doctors would not operate until she deposited 2 lakh rupees. She said she did not have that kind of cash and asked him to help. Vihaan asked her for her account number and promptly transferred 2 lakh rupees. After about five minutes, he received a тАШthanksтАЩ on WhatsApp from her number. He tried calling but now her number is always switched off.
Sonakshi was a 44-year-old single lady living with her parents in Hyderabad. She was a very successful entrepreneur who had been too busy for marriage during her youth. Now, she felt the need to share her life with someone. Her friends advised her to download a dating app. Soon, she got connected to Raghu, a businessman who was based in New York, USA. Raghu was an issueless divorcee who was looking for his soulmate. He was a great conversationalist and Sonakshi discovered that they could talk for hours on end about every topic in the world. After about two months, Raghu told Sonakshi that he will be coming to meet her. He wanted to marry her and take her back with him. SonakshiтАЩs joy knew no bounds. Raghu sent her pictures of all the expensive gifts including Apple iPad, diamond jewellery that he had purchased for her. SonakshiтАЩs friends warned her to be patient and not get blown away by such gestures. But Sonakshi could not wait. She was ready to meet her Prince Charming. On the day that Raghu was supposed to reach Mumbai, Sonakshi got a call on her phone. The man speaking on the other end said that he was calling from the customs department in Mumbai airport. He told her that Raghu has been arrested since he had items worth more than the permissible limit and unless he paid, they will not let him go. Sonakshi asked them to send the details where she could send the payment and the person sent her a link. She was asked to pay 1 lakh, which she immediately paid without even thinking. Then she got a call from the concierge at the hotel where RaghuтАЩs stay was booked. She was told that though Raghu was supposed to make the payment to book the room, his phone was out of reach. So, they asked her to make the payment of 50,000 INR. They sent her the link and she made the payment. After sometime, she got a call from Raghu who told her that the customтАЩs issue was solved and he wanted a business class ticket from Mumbai to Hyderabad. He asked her to transfer 50,000 INR and said that he will return it as soon as he meets her. Sonakshi transferred the money. She later tried to call Raghu but since that time his phone has been switched off.
Dr. Anamika Papriwal, a psychologist says, тАШI have heard of women talking to men for days and they asking them to pay their childrenтАЩs fee or give them money for their daily expenditure. Many of these people who pull off such scams have an innate understanding of the human behaviour. They first befriend the person, establish trust with them and then spend time talking to them. Once the person starts trusting them, they start with small transactions which they promptly return to again establish trust. Once that is done, they move in for the kill. In a way, it is an addiction where the person gets addicted to the other person. You can get anything done from an addict who needs his daily dose. That is how this works!тАЩ
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However, not all is gruesome and gory in the world of online dating. There are stories where people have found true love too. Thirty-year-old Puja met Nikhil on a dating app. Initially, she thought he was quite arrogant and snobbish. However, when they started chatting, she realized that he and she shared the same dreams and values. Nikhil travelled to Baroda to meet Puja and her family. After a while, Puja too visited Nikhil and his parents in Lucknow. Soon, they were married and are now blessed with a baby boy. Arjun, a 35-year-old doctor living in Gurgaon had faced rejection from a lot of girls. Online, he met Shruti, an interior designer who was also living in Gurgaon.┬а Shruti was beautiful but suffering from self-image issues owing to her weight. They connected and realized that they had a lot in common. They got married after dating for two years and are still going strong.
This article was published in Rashtradoot Newspaper’s Arbit on 2 June 2021.
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